To grow, we need to step out of our comfort zone; to accept we don’t know everything; to take a risk.
We’re familiar with that.
But had it occurred to you that sometimes we may hold back because our actions, or intended actions are a frightening thought for someone else? We may be influenced by their fears, even if they’re not involved at all and have quite a different context from us and so a different view of the risks. Our conversation with them is enough for them to express their fears; fears they would have if they were taking the action. If we’re not careful, we moderate what we do to fit their comfort zone.
Make sure it’s your own comfort and discomfort that’s guiding you and not the fears of the uninvolved.
I am greatly influenced by Duane’s fears and comfort zones. Partly because he is very protective; if he’s not comfortable with me going somewhere at night or even daytime, he certainly won’t allow me to go. I’m o.k. with this. I pick my fights.
On the other hand, your post speaks to one person’s comfort (or discomfort) zones having influence over the growth, both business and personal, of another. I don’t believe this happens to me. It may happen at times and I’m unaware of it, but I’m fairly astute and self-aware. Frequently, I’ll have thoughts and anxieties about this phenomenon you write about in the post, but I quickly walk over them and pursue my goal. I feel anytime I fail in growth and success, it’s mostly my fault, my fears, my hang ups that are to blame.
Thanks Samantha. Good that you are so mindful.
As I read this post I starting considering how age, maturity, and a certain skill set would influence all this. That it would all change as we gathered wisdom.
The I saw “filed under”, and the word wisdom.
Like the article; great stuff, David!
Thanks for the wisdom-full comment, Gibson.