We want people to be consistent. It makes it easier. We know where we stand.
Or do we?
Where we stand might be an illusion, if the other person isn’t being real.
Being genuinely consistent requires us to be certain, but as Richard Bandler said, “Any time you feel absolutely certain of something, that’s a sure sign that you have missed something.”
And we are conflicted beings much of the time, with many opposed considerations to reconcile. Working on those is the journey of a lifetime.
So, certainty tends to be elusive and the best we can do is be real; to be true to ourselves in the moment.
Then at least, others will really know where we stand, even if only for a time.
And when we choose to be real, as it says in the Tao Te Ching, we will
“Take on difficulties while they are still easy; [and]
do great things while they are still small
…and so achieve greatness.”
Which do you choose—to be consistent or to be real? Or do you believe can you be both?