We’re accustomed to making sure we don’t send mixed messages…
As long as we don’t actually say anything contradictory, people around us won’t be confused and will instead move forward on the basis of what they hear us say. So the thinking goes.
Unfortunately, it’s not that simple.
We send our mixed messages non-verbally and unconsciously more powerfully than we do in the words we speak.
And that’s very confusing.
If those we influence are to have the clarity which leads to powerful action, we need to resolve our own inner tensions first, or else hold the ambiguity of both one consideration and another honestly and transparently.
Then our non-verbal communication will match our words, the confusion will lift, and the people around us will move forward, with new energy.
…even if the message involves contradiction, funnily enough.