It’s remarkable how damaging it is to a relationship when we have to drag information out of someone—when we sense we aren’t being told everything and our time may be being wasted because we’re trying …
Can they speak the truth?
It’s striking how often middle level to senior people in organisations say they doubt the ordinary folk will feel safe speaking frankly about the business and what they see needs attention in front of …
How others see us, and what to do about it
How others see us is very important in determining our results and what happens in our lives. Many factors affect that, of course: Our track record and so on. However, a big part of it is how we see …
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Yes and no
To paraphrase 13th century poet, Mevlana Jelaluddin Rumi... “Out beyond ideas of yes and no, there is a field. I’ll meet you there.” Asking a closed question always seemed to me a clumsy way of …
Ian Paisley and the influence of personal change
If Ian Paisley and Martin McGuinness can become best buddies, surely just about anyone can be reconciled... It seems to me Ian Paisley is an interesting example of how changing yourself changes the …
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Why don’t they take action?
Sometimes it surprises us that people don’t do things we think they should take action on, to do with other people particularly (or anything really); even things they’ve agreed to do. Why is that? I …