That might seem a strange question, but think about it: Do you resist the learning which comes from your influences? Actually, I think, most of us do. Because influence means change, and change …
Once you’ve decided what matters…
...everything else doesn’t matter. We know the benefit of clarity well enough: Getting clear about what matters in a relationship of any kind, or any other context, means we can focus our energies in …
Acting hard—a good idea?
An organisation wonders if it has a particular problem with stress—more than is typical... I ask whether the employees believe management cares about them, really wondering to what degree that is …
Is it a mistake to focus when you don’t know what works?
Focus, focus, focus—the key to having an impact, making progress, gaining traction. But what if you don’t really know what works, or don’t know yet? If you’re doing something new, you’re very …
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The things we don’t like may be the very things we need to learn
Sometimes we react strongly against something someone else says. Or we see other people being surprisingly critical and dismissive of what seems pretty innocuous but useful information. The very …
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What is the opposite of “quiet?”
It's often said that someone is "quiet', meaning that either they aren't saying much in the moment, or don't say much in general. At least, that's what it appears to mean. In the first instance, the …